Whether you are a control freak or not, take my word for it, don’t try to organize your own wedding by yourself. This may be one of the most stressful things you’ll ever do. Especially if organizing is not your thing, this whole event will simply overwhelm you.
As I was living in Belgium, but most of my family is in Romania, we decided to have it there. Needless to say that organizing the wedding remotely was nerve racking. I just went once before the wedding to choose the location, which I did in half of an afternoon and then the rest was done from Belgium. Of course I had my mom on site to give me a hand and friends who kicked in the week before the wedding, but that was not enough.
There are so many details to look at: organize the menu, decorations, get a band or a DJ, make sure all the invitations are sent on time and RSV and so on. So, my advice is to get a professional to do it, if you can afford it. If you can’t, then choose a few friends and family members and delegate specific tasks to them. If that doesn’t work either, then I am sure that one of your close friends (if not your future spouse) is a great event organizer or project manager and can delegate for you.
Make sure you ask for help! This is the utmost important thing you can do when organizing a wedding! It’s not worth the stress and the few details that you will forget about, will surely go unnoticed. In the end, if you can’t enjoy your day, it’s sad and almost in vain for your memories of the day. I wasn’t able to enjoy our wedding, because I got stressed out of mind, but I am very thankful for the support I got from my friends and family.
P.S. A while ago I wrote a blog: “It’s not about the wedding, it’s about the marriage” explaining why not having a perfect wedding is OK.